May Reads

Book 14:
"You Do You" by Sarah Knight
This is the second book I've read by Sarah Knight and my favorite of the two. (The other was "The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck.") It's a book about learning to embrace who we are, which should be the easiest thing in the world, but we know it's not. To quote Knight herself, "The advice in this book boils down to one simple mantra: Stand up for who you are and what you want. How do you do that? Stop letting other people tell you what to do, how to do it, or why it can't be done."

With authenticity and the right amount of attitude, "You Do You" is a reminder that there's nothing wrong with standing up for what you want or need or deserve. As always, I appreciate that it's about learning to be selfish and "difficult" while also being considerate of others.
At my biggest, smallest, and sickest—even though I was lucky to have people around me telling me they loved me and I was beautiful—I never actually felt that way until I finally accepted myself for who I am, flaws and all."
Rating: 4/5

Book 15:
"The Wife Between Us"
by Greer Hendricks & Sarah Pekkanen
Quite honestly, the blurb gives away the first big twist, so I recommend not reading that, and I'll summarize it differently: This book alternates between two points of view. First, Vanessa, the ex-wife, who is struggling with a drinking problem and obsessive jealousy ever since Richard left her for another woman. Second, Nellie, the young, new fiancé who is trying to shake the feeling that she's being followed while in the midst of planning her wedding. Vanessa is determined to stop her replacement from marrying the man she loves, but how far will she go?

I ended up figuring out very early on what the first twist was, which for me personally, automatically makes the book less enjoyable. Maybe I'm too picky when it comes to this genre. From there, I was hoping for more surprises but didn't get too many. I kept reading more out of curiosity on how it'd end rather than being invested in the mystery.

I did enjoy the final twists at the end, though, despite the cheesiness to them.

Rating: 3/5


Book 16:
"Goodbye, Vitamin" by Rachel Khong
I was seeing in a lot of reviews that this book was funny. I picked it up because I was in the mood for something lighthearted and quirky. I think I read the summary too quickly but the synopsis on the flap did say it was told from a deep well of humor.

"Goodbye, Vitamin" is essentially about a woman, Ruth, who moves back to her parents' for a year to help care for her father, who's in the early stages of Alzheimer's. Ruth's fiancé recently left her, and her father has lost his teaching job. They're coping.

I don't think I let out more than a hard-exhale laugh once while reading this book. I did, however, cry multiple times. This book wrecked me. Having said that, you should read it. It's a beautifully written story that I devoured in its entirety in one day. I loved it. I will definitely have to check out more from Khong.
What imperfect carriers of love we are, and what imperfect givers. That the reasons we can care for one another can have nothing to do with the person cared for. That it has only to do with who we were around that person—what we felt about that person."
Rating: 5/5


Book 17:
"Places I Stopped on the Way Home"
by Meg Fee
I've adored Meg Fee's writing on her blog for the past couple of years. She's a striking writer, and because of that, I knew her book would be no different. It is just what the cover suggests: a memoir of chaos and grace. It's reflective and honest, painting a picture of New York with memories of love and growth tied together through various essays. (I think the font used in the book is also the same as what's on her blog, which was a nice touch.)

As someone who has been in a long-term relationship since the beginning of college and hasn't lived in a city, I couldn't relate too much to the specific events discussed in these stories, but the feelings and emotions are universal. I have plenty of pages dog-eared to refer back to.
But this is what I know to be true, that in the worst moments of our lives, good things happen. That, in fact, good and bad rush in together, one somersaulting over the other. And you must be alert enough to look for both."
Rating: 4/5




Is This What A Quarter-Life Crisis Feels Like?


I'm kidding. Kind of.

When I mentioned in a post in March that I've been going to my gym for six years, it kind of sent me down a rabbit hole.

Sunday Shares | What I've Been Loving


Today I went to get a mani/pedi with a friend and wished once again that I went to get my nails done more often. It's my favorite way to treat myself. After that, we went out to dinner then came back to my apartment to play video games and chill. It's been a lowkey day, as most of my weekends are. Now that spring is here, I should probably be making more of an effort to go out and do things but man I'm a sucker for staying in.

The past two weeks have been pretty hectic work-wise but in a good way because I got a promotion! I'm really happy about it. Work has been stressful lately where I'm feeling like I could be doing better, but I also know that I try my hardest and do a good job, even on my off days. I'm reminding myself that I earned this.

Oh and by the way, I'm Team Yanny.

Here's what I've been loving lately:

Partners


There is always something to learn about love and relationships and here is my latest lesson: There is a difference between a boyfriend and a partner. There is not a difference between a partner and a fiancé or husband.

The Importance Of Asking For Help


It's been a weird week for me with one key takeaway: It's not only okay to ask for help when you need it, it's important.

Finding Your Spark: Emotions, Atmosphere, Intimacy And Joy In a Click


I decided to start the "Finding Your Spark" series to shine a light on different types of people who are following various paths – their OWN paths, whatever those may be. The whole idea is that there's no single way to live life and a person doesn't have to be "famous" to inspire others. These individuals have found what inspires them, motivates them, makes them happy. And they've run with it.

Read all posts in this series here.

Sunday Shares | What I've Been Loving


I usually write these posts on the Saturday morning before it goes up, but this time it's pretty late, about 10:30 at night. And to be honest, I'm hoping to crank it out kinda quickly because there's ice cream in the freezer and it's not gonna eat itself.

This past week has been really, really good. While I don't want to jinx it, I'd say spring is finally here to stay. The happiest time of the year. It's been I'll-be-fine-without-a-jacket warm and I'm loving it. Today it hit 80. I wore a dress. I spent my morning reading on the balcony and my afternoon having a picnic lunch with Rahul and lying in the sun. What could be better.

Here's what I've been loving lately:

Give Yourself Some Credit


There's a woman at my gym who I see nearly every time I'm there. She's always in my spin class, she was always in the pilates class I used to go to, she's always on the fitness floor with me lifting weights. She's just always there (and her back muscles are insane).

Whenever I see her, I'm impressed and a little envious. I think to myself, Jeez, I wish I was as motivated as she is. I wish I worked out as often as she does. I should. She works out SO MUCH.

Then I realize... I'm there too.

If I'm seeing this woman at the gym, say, five days a week, it means I was also at the gym five days a week. I am doing exactly the same actions that I'm admiring, yet for some reason it's impressive for her and means nothing for me. She is going above and beyond. I could be doing better.